+1's and Minors - Our Wedding
I have been trying to avoid this discussion for as long as possible (because I hate it and I know that these are the two of the most common points of tension when planning a wedding.) However, I think it is only fair, now that we are getting close, that I just come out with it.

First, Alex and I have decided that we will not be including any +1's on our invitations. Our wedding is going to be the most important, intimate and emotional day of our lives (thus far), and we only want to share it with those who are closest to us. Being relatively private people, we wouldn't feel comfortable meeting anyone for the first time (other than each-others family members) on our wedding day. We look at it like this, if we don't know a person well enough to know what name to write on the invitation, they wouldn't know us well enough to share in the intimate environment we hope our wedding will be. (Because of my job, I see so many weddings where the bride and groom's guests are literally introducing themselves in the receiving line! This has always stood out to me as something I would not be comfortable with personally.)

Secondly, Alex and I will not be inviting children under the age of 16. The absolute only exceptions will be my sisters and our niece. This was a very difficult decision for us to make. Anyone who knows us, knows that Alex and I LOVE kids, especially little ones. However, we have so many young cousins and second cousins, that if we invited them all, the wedding might as well be held at Chuck E Cheese. In order to be as fair as possible, we decided to just choose an age and solidly stand by it. We realize that this will be an inconvenience to some of our guests, as they will need to find a sitter in order to attend. We acknowledge this and definitely appreciate it.

We hope that our close friends and family will be able to understand and support these decisions. We are sorry for any inconveniences these may cause and hope that you will still be able to join us. However, when all is said and done, it is our wedding and we have a responsibility to ourselves to make sure it is as perfect, for us, as it can be.

2/1/2012 07:39:07

Try not to feel bad about your decision, I see absolutely nothing wrong with it, and anyone who knows, and loves you will respect your wishes as well.

Aunt Jan
2/1/2012 20:30:48

Kerri & Al, it is your day and you have the right to surround yourselves with whomever you choose. We are looking forward to sharing your happy day.

Aunt Jodi
3/20/2012 22:02:42

Sorry Ker....I respect your decision but unfortunately that means I will not be attending. Hunter will be with his father but as you know, the very few that babysit Kamryn will be going to the wedding. Also, she has seen your invitation and was excited about coming.


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